The aim is to develop communication that is non-threatening and not blaming or manipulative.
To do this a degree of self-awareness is required to be developed in order to explain more clearly and honestly what is happening inside.
In the early stages of counselling, a number of anger management strategies may be looked at as a means of maintaining safety and taking the first steps to rebuilding trust.
Learning anger management strategies or attending a stopping violence course can be a useful way forward.
Although anger management is often directed at men, anger management strategies can also be of relevance to women. For women, it can be a way to understand their own anger and can also be useful to understand their partner’s anger.
In individual counselling or in a group setting it is possible to learn about:
Whilst it is important that the violent member of a relationship takes responsibility for his or her behaviour it is important to recognize that violence often occurs within a relationship. It is often the case that over time, something like a dysfunctional dance has developed between a couple that has become well entrenched.
It can also be helpful to make use of couple counselling to look at the relationship dynamics that precipitated the conflict. In this way both partners can make changes that add positively to the relationship for its long term health.
If you are worried that anger is an issue for you or someone close to you and would like to start to make changes you can contact Talking Therapy.